M.—Actually, we likely all hold while watching TV!  You may have heard that the city water pressure drops during commercials throughout the Super Bowl game!  Often people doing errands hold off going to the bathroom until they get back to the comfort of their own homes.  Children often do this during the school day.  Holding is a prepotent, first automatic response to pee or poo toileting urges!  The trouble with children is that they do this so often just as a matter of course that their stools may dry out, their colon expands, and a painful passage of poo may deliver the message to them that, that is enough of that!  Power struggles may result and everyone learns to live with a bad smell and ineffectual efforts to stem the tide of poo.  This prepotent habit becomes so overlearned that it dominates and the follow up voiding reflex habit of going poo on the toilet never adequately develops.  The medical profession instructs parents to give oral stool softeners and laxatives which may work if done early enough, but often this is too late because of parenting delays, embarrassment, and scheduling difficulties with the appropriate specialist, the Pediatric Gastroenterologist (PedGI).  Too many physicians, even including the PedGIs, fail to understand the reflex arc mechanism for installing the voiding reflex to follow the holding response. 

My Soiling Solutions (SS) Protocol is the only home-based treatment alternative that can provide the understanding and instructions provided in the Clean Kid Manual (CKM) to help your child recognize his urges and quickly and efficiently get to the toilet stool and void appropriately.  The CKM is only available through www.soilingsolutions.com or your physician who may have ordered multiple copies of the manual at steep discounts from my store.  Professional orders have been rare since the doc’s simply stick with their old “top down” treatment, sometimes with behavioral psychology emphases for rewards.  They also may offer their profound assurances that he/she will “grow out of it”!  Of course they charge for this profound assurance.  You also pay for laundry, labor, and wasted emotions.  Some physicians are “open” to the SS method and others will give you the “evil eye” or at least frown if you mention it to them.  You can do the SS Protocol with the help of over 300 parents on the exclusive SS Parents Forum which you gain access to with the purchase of the CKM.  I do prefer that you at least let your physician that you are proceeding with SS, but can understand if you do not.  You may have to be very confident and strong in doing this.  I do provide a letter in the manual or on my website to assist you. 

Back in the early 70’s physicians and hospitals had to be confronted to allow fathers in labor and delivery rooms.  They could not fight off the cultural changes pushing this in those days.  I know, I was the founding President for Educated Childbirth, Inc. in Grand Rapids, MI back in those days.  I hope we can get enough momentum to get them to default to the rational Soiling Solutions protocol much more quickly than is done today.